Separation Anxiety, it’s a problem!

So often, we spend our lives watching these instagrammers sharing their picture perfect lives through their photographs or stories. Very rarely do I stop and consider that they only chose to share their best bits. Sometimes it is just good to take a moment to remember that… Not everything is perfect.

Today’s post is going to be a honest one. I want to share with you a little problem Alfie and I are facing at the moment… Well, a massive problem. Alfie has started to struggle with separation anxiety. I don’t want your judgements, or for you to tell me where I’m going wrong. I just want to share our journey with you. As I’m hoping with a lot of hard work, you will be able to see things progress over time… Right now, the idea of leaving him for as little as 5 minutes is impossible.

A bit of a back story…

Up until moving a few weeks back, Alfie has never been an only dog. He has always had my parents dogs around to keep him company. I’m a little ashamed to say that I have never left him alone. This was because there is always someone about in my family home… Which was great, but it didn’t teach Alf the skills he needed to function alone.

Up until recently I didn’t think this was a problem, until that dreaded day when I had to leave him by himself for the first time. I wasn’t planning on going for long, simply popping out for a little while… Really just to gauge how he reacted. I had set a dog camera up ready to watch his reaction. I can safely say it broke my heart. I have never seen him look so distressed. How could I let a problem like this happen?

So, what’s next?

Truthfully? I don’t quite know, at the moment I am considering getting a behaviourist involved or seeing if this is just something we can work through together. All I know that it is going to be a tricky one to conquer!

I will be sure to keep you updated throughout the process… Wish us luck! I’m going to need it!

Emma & Alfie xox

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  • Reply hugosadventures

    Holly suffers with this and you’re right, it’s heart breaking to witness how stressed they get when left home alone. I would definitely recommend getting a behaviourist in, ours worked wonders for Holly. Thankfully she’s rarely left alone now but if she is I spend a few weeks beforehand building up the time alone from just a minute or two. Good luck! xo

    August 7, 2017 at 11:41 am
    • Reply Emma Bearman

      Thank you lovely, I must admit we haven’t tried to tackle it just yet but will definitely be getting some help on the subject – I’m so glad Holly is much better!
      Emma & Alfie xox

      September 26, 2017 at 9:05 am
  • Reply Becky

    Wishing you lots of luck in tackling the problem!

    Becky & Rufus
    Blogger & The Geek

    August 10, 2017 at 8:25 am
    • Reply Emma Bearman

      Thank you lovely! That’s our aim over winter!
      Emma & Alfie xox

      September 26, 2017 at 9:06 am
  • Reply Elly & Fudge

    You’ll get there, have faith! It’s always heartbreaking, but just getting them to understand things will be okay is the challenge.
    Fudge is currently suffering from noise anxiety and travel anxiety (which all started since our traumatic incident when she slipped her harness and ran off!), but we know we’ve got to persevere and keep thinking positive. We’ll get there!
    Elly & Fudge x

    August 23, 2017 at 7:08 am
    • Reply Emma Bearman

      Thank you Elly, I hope you and Fudge are doing well. Sorry to hear about your traumatic incident – You will get there! No doubt about it.
      Emma & Alfie xox

      September 26, 2017 at 9:35 am

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